That leads us to ask an even bigger question…………….

Inner Child work focuses on the unmet needs of childhood and how fulfilling those needs can lead to a complete, more confident and self actualized individual.

So many of us grew up in homes and families that were dysfunctional and even toxic. The shame, anger, abuse, neglect, abandonment and dysfunction in our childhoods often re-emerges in ways that are very different from the original feeling. It can present itself as depression; anxiety, compulsive behaviours such as eating disorders, bodily pain, behavioural problems, addiction, relationship dysfunction and personality disorders.

Healing The Inner Child helps reconnect us to our authentic selves and teaches us healthy ways to re-parent our wounded child within and provides us with tools and resources that will impact every area of our life.

Healing childhood hurt and pain also expands our capacity for love and nurturing in all of our relationships.

IN THIS “INNER CHILD SERIES” YOU WILL EXPLORE THE FOLLOWING AREAS……………

The truth is we all have grown up with some sort of confusion and dysfunction in our lives. In that dysfunctional family we have also learnt to relate in dysfunctional ways. Rarely are we aware that we are relating in any other way but normal, because it becomes normal to us in our lives. An example of this would be where we have learnt from our parents to use anger to express ourselves, although it may be done inappropriately, it may also be the only way we know, so we continue to do it. When we express ourselves in that way it can have a devastating affect on our partner when he or she does not feel safe. However, maybe that is all we know, so we continue to do what we know. Once we learn what a functional family looks and feels like, within ourselves. We then find that we take that functionality not only back to our own families, but we take it everywhere in our lives, into our community, sports groups, work groups and even back into our family of origin. We also are then empowered to recognise and empathise when someone is operating in a dysfunctional way. We find that we can really be there for them, rather than judge them or make them wrong.

The reason we loose the connection to who we truly are is due to some uncomfortable or even painful experiences that happened earlier in our life. At this stage we develop some new behaviours in order to protect ourselves from needing to experience that pain again. These new behaviours we identify as our “false self”. The reason we have formed the “false self”, is because this is who we thought other people wanted us to be, or who we thought we needed to be, in order to be loved. The more we learnt to be someone other than who we really are, the more we became some one else and the more we forgot our “Authentic Self”.

Once we find our Authentic Self, we feel a strong sense of personal freedom. True freedom comes from feeling ‘free to be ourselves’ all the time. When we don’t have to try and be anyone but who we really are we also find a deep genuine love and respect for ourselves. We will begin to develop a strong presence because we are honouring ourselves in every moment. We will begin to develop a greater purpose and greater meaning in life, because we feel a greater sense of fulfilment by following our hearts and always being true to ourselves for ourselves.

Until we are ready to fall in “real love” with ourselves we have little to no chance of offering “real love” to anybody else. We like to believe that it’s possible to really love somebody else with out fully loving ourselves. The danger is that we become dependant on the other person for love. This behaviour will not only keep our selves stuck personally, but it will also hold back the relationship from truly growing. Growth must exist in all relationships otherwise they will stagnate. A relationship is either growing or it is dying, so stagnation will lead to the relationship dying.

Remember if our glass is only half full, we can only truly offer half a glass. This applies directly to love, if we don’t love ourselves fully, we cannot offer all of ourselves for love!

“Real love” must also exist in order for either person in a relationship to feel a sense of freedom. The relationship must have the flexibility and trust that if one partner needs to have time to themselves, they can. Even though they might never choose to do this, it keeps the relationship healthy knowing that the option is available. When this option is unavailable one can get resentful and feel smothered by the other partner. At this point it’s likely that he or she will begin to pull away, if he or she doesn’t no how to deal with it.

Becoming needy of the other persons love is destructive in every way in a relationship. A great question to ask is; if my partner were to leave me for a few months would I feel ok emotionally, or would I feel like my world is falling part? Note: The question is not referring to physical commitments that have been made like financial or family responsibilities. If the answer is Yes, that my world would be unstable, then a great question to ask would be why?

If you are not in a relationship at the current time, it’s a great time to ask yourself this question and be honest with the answer. In past relationships have I been needy of love?

When we think of real love, we think of the way we have been taught about love, very likely from our parents. Even though it will feel real to us, maybe it is not “real love”, maybe it is just love in the only way we have been taught and the only way we know.

Remember, the true essence of an intimate relationship is to remind us of who we really are!

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